From: _Before We Were Trans: A New History of Gender_ by Kit Heyam

It’s important that we, as historians or as queer people, don’t treat gender and sexuality as two things that use to be entangled but have now been teased apart. There can be a tendency in white queer circles to frame this as a narrative of ‘progress’ in which we’ve moved from and outdated past where all queer relationships had to have ‘a man and a woman’, to a liberated present in which sexuality has been unhooked from gender and queer relationships are characterized by sameness and mutuality. But that narrative doesn’t represent everybody’s experience. If we frame the entanglement of gender and sexuality as a relic of an unenlightened past, we erase the experiences of many people – often, disproportionately, working-class people and people of colour. There are plenty of examples of individuals, groups and cultures for whom it’s no accurate to talk about ‘gender’ and ‘sexuality’ as separate concepts or experiences.

Where do non-binary peole fit into our existing categories of sexuality? Is gender really the most helpful way to [categorize] the people we’re attracted to, or is it time for a new model: one that reflects the fact that knowing someone’s gender doesn’t always tell you much at all about who they are?


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